Anal report
Since the dawn of time, anal intercourse has been a source of taboo, desire, fantasy and contempt. It is frequently practised by gays and bisexuals, but remains a difficult subject for heterosexuals.
Anal penetration for heterosexual men remains a taboo and a fear of being perceived as homosexual.
However, it doesn’t necessarily require a male penis. Many sex toys that are not shaped like a penis can be an acceptable compromise.
Loving a man’s body when you’re a man is proof of homosexuality.
>Loving anal pleasure practiced alone or with a woman has nothing to do with homosexuality, just with anal pleasure.
Anal intercourse can be a source of intense pleasure for many people. However, they require adequate preparation and communication to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience. Here are a few tips to help you make the most of this practice.
Open communication
Communication is essential for any sexual activity, and this is especially true for anal intercourse. Talk openly with your partner about your desires, limits and expectations. Honest communication can help avoid misunderstandings and build trust.
The anus is an erogenous zone, and there’s no shame in experiencing pleasure in and around it.
If men fantasize about anal penetration, many seem unaware that their own anus is a zone of high erogenous potential, whether it’s the scrotum, anus, rectum or prostate, called the P-spot for men in reference to the G-spot for women.
If gays and bisexuals are more open about this practice, straight men who dream of practicing it with their partner seem totally stuck on the idea of a woman playing with their anus or prostate.
Preparing for anal intercourse
More than any other, this area requires impeccable hygiene before sexual intercourse.
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- We clean the rectum, i.e. the inside of a mucous membrane that is both sensitive and very fragile. So don’t force it, go gently. The ideal time? About 2 hours before intercourse. Doing it just before is not recommended, as the mucosa is fragile. Cuts or micro-lesions (even if painless and without bleeding) can cause irritation and allow viruses and bacteria to enter.
- Use an enema bulb or shower nozzle (with a rounded tip, check before you buy) coated with lubricant or mild soap. Crouch down under the shower to facilitate drainage. Breathe deeply, relaxing the area. The cannula should not be inserted too deeply, the idea being to avoid micro-tears as much as possible.
- Let the water run, neither too hot nor too cold (lukewarm, around body temperature, i.e. 37 degrees), without using too much at once. Hold for a few seconds, then drain. Do this several times until the water runs clear. Be careful with the power of the shower jet! We don’t try to strip with a powerful jet, we use low pressure, softness again and again, at least at this stage, afterwards, it’s up to you. There are also enema bulbs of varying volumes, often with finer tips. The evacuation of stools should not make you feel uncomfortable, so increase the power of the jet a little to dissolve them if necessary and let them drain into the shower or bathtub drain.
- Don’t be in too much of a hurry. When the water is clear, it’s OK. There may be a little intestinal mucus, which is normal. Since we often let in a little air, gas is always possible, but not serious. Check the toilet 30 minutes later, to evacuate any pockets of water that may have remained inside.
- There’s a longer enema, practiced by fist-fucking enthusiasts, when a fist or large dildo is thrust in – in short, something wider and deeper than a zob. It lasts longer and seeks to clean more thoroughly.
WHERE TO FIND AN ENEMA SHOWER NOZZLE?
In most sex shops or online. Beware, prices can vary from one to three! There are several types of material (hard, semi-rigid, plastic, metal, aluminum, with or without pressure regulator…), and you may need to try out several. Expect to pay at least €10 or €15, and like a toothbrush, this tip is strictly for personal use. Online gay sex shops also sell enema pears (including a cannula) in various sizes and colors – expect to pay around €20. This equipment (like any other sex object) should be cleaned between uses with a disinfectant liquid soap purchased from a pharmacy.
SUPPOSITORIES TO AVOID ENEMA, FOR OR AGAINST?
These are anti-constipation drugs containing glycerine, or used to prepare for a medical examination. They can therefore be used occasionally. Used too often, they risk weakening the mucosa.
Preliminaries
Foreplay is crucial to prepare the body and mind for anal sex. Caressing, kissing and stimulation can increase arousal and make the experience more pleasurable. Take your time to explore your partner’s erogenous zones.
Practice
Use a lubricating gel to work the area. A flick of the tongue is rarely enough! The anus is not naturally lubricated, and saliva is not a good lubricant. Composed of water, it moistens and gives a brief sensation of wetness. But it dries very quickly and doesn’t lubricate.
During sodomy, the external anal sphincter, a kind of muscular ring that usually keeps the anus closed, opens up when you relax, when you voluntarily let go. It can take time and patience, as well as an enormous desire: the first time almost never resembles a sequence in a porn film, where the actors, prepared and professional, have real experience and years of practice. With a finger, then two, then three (nails well trimmed so as not to irritate the mucous membrane) or with a dildo (a small one to start with), the sphincter muscle relaxes, allowing penetration.
Be careful, however, as the walls of the rectum are fragile, and a burning sensation may occur the first time. Stop the movement, this sensation usually passes quickly, so don’t hesitate to add more gel.
We should also mention cases where the internal sphincter contracts as a reflex gesture, which can explain cases of anism, an “inability” to relax the sphincter to get taken. In such cases, it is advisable to consult a sexologist.
Sexual positions
They are numerous and varied, more or less acrobatic, but to begin with, the doggy-style position and the position where the partner straddles the other are the most recommended. They allow the receiving partner to control the depth of penetration, whereas in the missionary position this control is more difficult.
Male man, male woman or female man, everything is possible with or without a penis. Don’t hesitate to use sex toys, there’s a wide variety available.
Prevention during anal intercourse
As the rectum is lined with a mucous membrane, it remains an ideal entry point for all viruses.
There is an effective preventive treatment against HIV infection, called PREP. This treatment does not protect against the risks of other STIs, syphilis, condyloma etc., so it’s best to use condoms, especially if you have several partners.
Exploration and variety
Active, Passive these seemingly identifying adjectives represent only a conservative form of describing gender roles. If some people confine themselves to a single role, you can pigment the game by reversing them. Dare to try out new sex toys, role-playing or stimulation techniques to keep your sex life exciting and satisfying.
Respect and consent
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- It’s what allows the sexual relationship to exist and be successful. Immediately, what comes to mind is the fact of clearly agreeing or disagreeing (yes or no) before a sexual act, and whether the agreement is explicit or implicit (a word, a gesture, a look, a kiss given to an approaching mouth…). This applies all the time, everywhere: in a meeting place, at home (even if the guy has traveled 100 kilometers, you don’t “owe” him anything, even if he insists like a starving lout – don’t feel guilty about saying no!), at home, in the back seat of a car or in the middle of a forest. Consent must be clear, free and informed.
- It’s important to get into the habit of clearly explaining your desires and limits, by defining them: we get more pleasure when we feel secure, and this also applies to exchanges on an app before a meeting.
- Consent can be revoked at any time. Example: during the discussion, you said you’d agree to penetration, but now you don’t feel like it, you can say STOP. The easiest way to do this is to ask your partner if he or she is willing to move on to other practices, and to check that everything is going well. Communicating before, during and after isn’t a bad idea.
- Use gestures (crossing your hands to say stop), use words (a safety word chosen together), and exchange ideas with your lovers before you start. Example: if I hit the bed, you stop immediately, if I say STOP, you stop…
- What kind of consent is required when using products? Wherever we are, with or without products, the other person’s body is not accessible by convention: our body belongs to us, and that goes for any age! In theory, the simplest thing to do is to remain in a position to say no.
A young researcher, Lauren Smith, professor of psychology at Leeds Beckett University (UK), has published a study on consent and product use. According to her, those who have taken chems are not fully capable of judging the situation and expressing clear, free and informed consent. It is therefore preferable to be in a position to record new information (to be sure of understanding what is being proposed), to assess the risks and consequences and, of course, to be able to communicate one’s decision (source: https: //www.researchgate.net/profile/Lauren-Smith-57). In reality, when we’re under the influence of products, our ability to judge is impaired, and an agreement made before starting the chems plan may no longer hold or be respected.
Conclusion
Anal intercourse can be a deeply satisfying and intimate experience. By following these tips, you can enhance your sex life and strengthen your connection with your partner.
Sodomy isn’t just for gay or bisexual men, heterosexual men can enjoy it with a partner and discover the enormous orgasmic potential of prostate massage.
Remember that everyone is unique, so take the time to find out what works best for you and your partner.