Vaginal intercourse

Tips for a fulfilling experience

Vaginal intercourse is one of the most common forms of sexual intercourse. They can be a source of pleasure and deep connection between partners, but also of great frustration for women.

• Glossary
  Open communication

  Preliminaries

  Lubrication

  Sexual positions

  Health & Safety

  Conclusion

While the vagina is perfectly suited to the male sex for reproductive purposes, it is not highly sensitive. The most sensitive center remains the clitoris, which will be the subject of another article.

So gentlemen, if you don’t understand this reality, you won’t be able to become good lovers. Don’t forget that according to some studies, only 20% of women have a vaginal orgasm.

On the other hand, if penetration seems to remain the model of a successful sexual act, based on the idea of a fusion of two bodies and a simultaneous orgasm, the reality is quite different. We need to get away from preconceived ideas if we are to progress along the path to happy, complicit sexuality.

Here are a few tips to make the vaginal experience even more fulfilling and safe.

Communication is the key to satisfying human relationships. Talking about sex, confiding in each other about our fantasies and pleasures, our desires for exploration and discovery, is the basis of a successful sexual relationship. This communication has to be balanced. Yes, women have fantasies too! It’s often men’s attitude that pushes women to adopt a passive, submissive behavior for fear of being seen as s…pes, despicable women, sexual objects. Each partner must be able to express herself without taboos, shame or prejudice. Mutual desire must be a bridge over these communication barriers and the reproduction of behaviors inherited from centuries of machismo.

Communication is the first stage of foreplay. It fosters mental arousal, enabling partners to move more quickly into the sexual act. Foreplay is essential to prepare the body and mind for sex.

Caressing, kissing and stimulation can increase arousal and make the experience more pleasurable. Take your time to explore your partner’s erogenous zones and prepare your bodies for natural lubrication to ensure optimal vaginal penetration. Don’t forget the role of the clitoris in this adventure.

The vagina naturally lubricates with arousal. However, adequate lubrication is crucial for comfortable, pleasurable vaginal intercourse. Use water- or silicone-based lubricants to reduce friction and prevent discomfort. This is particularly important for women who may experience vaginal dryness.

Lubricants can be used on both men and women. When using a condom, the man should systematically lubricate the outside of the condom to make penetration more pleasurable for his partner, but he can also coat his own sex with gel before fitting the condom. This will enhance his own sensations.

Experiment with different sexual positions to find the ones that suit you best. Some positions may offer more intense stimulation or deeper penetration.

• • The missionary: Classic and intimate, this comfortable position makes eye contact and caresses easy.
    

    
  • Doggy style: This position allows deep vaginal penetration and is very effective for both partners in a domineering role. On all fours, the position can become tiring for the woman who is subjected to her partner’s assaults.
    

    
  • The cowgirl: Above her partner, the woman sets the pace and controls the depth.
    

    
  • The spoon: A lateral position for gentle, intimate penetration.
    

    

These are just a few examples of classic positions, but don’t limit yourself to them – excitement and pleasure are endless sources of imagination.

Maintaining good hygiene is essential to prevent infection and irritation. Make sure you wash before and after sex. Always use condoms for first vaginal intercourse with an unknown partner. It’s the only way to protect yourself against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancy.

HIV is not a homosexual disease and concerns everyone. In addition to HIV, there are many other STIs, and a person can be a carrier without knowing it.

Exploration and variety

Don’t be afraid to explore and vary your sexual practices. Male sex isn’t the only object that can bring vaginal pleasure. Try new sex toys, role-playing or stimulation techniques to keep your sex life exciting and satisfying.

Respect and consent

Respect and consent are fundamental to any sexual relationship. Make sure partners are comfortable and consenting at every stage. Consent must be free, informed and reversible. Listening to each other before, during and after sex is essential to progress on the path to voluptuousness, pleasure and happiness.

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